You’re pregnant. Perhaps you’re feeling scared, anxious, or overwhelmed by all the decisions and unknowns your future holds. Maybe you’re not in a place to provide for a baby right now. Maybe you’ve got big dreams for pursuing higher education and you just don’t see how you can juggle raising a child with going to school and working. Maybe your situation is completely unique and you feel like no one understands what you’re going through.
You’re not alone. We’re here to help. We want to walk through this with you as you explore your options in order to make the best decision for yourself—and your baby.
Considering adoption? Here are six things you should know.
- You Have a Say in Your Child’s Future Family
The idea of handing your child over to strangers may sound terrifying. And rightfully so. But good news! Did you know you can choose your child’s future family? Maybe you dream of your child growing up in the country with plenty of space to explore, or perhaps you have hopes for them to travel the world and experience other cultures. Maybe you loved being part of a large family and want your child to have lots of siblings. Or perhaps there’s a certain religious preference you want to pass onto them. Whatever your priorities, you have the power to choose a family that aligns with what’s important to you.
- Financial Assistance
Going through with a pregnancy can be expensive. Besides the medical bills, there are also many legal fees incurred throughout the adoption process. It’s not uncommon for most adoption agencies/adopting parents to cover the cost of these expenses. If this is something that’s important to you, you have the right to choose an agency that will provide assistance.
Making the decision to place your child for adoption isn’t easy. In fact, it’s something that will stick with you for the rest of your life. As such, many adoption agencies provide counseling free-of-charge throughout the adoption process to ensure your emotional well-being, as well as physical. Some agencies even provide counseling for life. It’s important to know that you’ll have some form of support no matter what, and that your needs won’t be forgotten.
- You Can Maintain Contact
Most adoptions today have some level of openness, although it’s not required. When choosing an adoptive family for your child, you can discuss the level of contact you wish to maintain. Maybe you desire to be there for your child’s future birthdays or major milestones. Or perhaps you think it would be easier to only receive phone calls, or letters updating you on your child’s life and development. Your preference for what your relationship with the adoptive family will look like might be different than other birth mom’s, and that’s okay. Choose a level of contact that makes you comfortable.
- Adoptive Families Have to be Approved
In Virginia, adoptive families must complete a home study before they are eligible to adopt. This study is done by a licensed agency and determines whether or not a family is financially, physically, mentally, and morally able to care for a child. Depending on the openness of your adoption, you may even be able to meet a prospective family ahead of time and determine if you think they’d be a good fit for your child.
- You Are Strong
More than anything we hope you know just how strong you are! We fully recognize that deciding to go through with a pregnancy and then placing your child in the arms of another mother is no small feat. Being able to step back from your present situation and make a decision based on what is best for your child, and for you, takes great strength and courage. Know that you are strong, not just as a mother, but as a woman.
Valley Women’s Clinic is here for you
Not sure what to do next? Valley Women’s Clinic is here to help you. While you’re the only one who can make this difficult decision, our staff can assist you in the process. All of our services are 100% free and confidential.
Request an appointment today for our Blacksburg or Radford clinic to speak with a Valley Women’s Clinic nurse or client advocate about your pregnancy options, including adoption. Our staff can provide you with medical information, referrals, and a listening ear. Sometimes what helps the most is knowing you’re not alone.
While Valley Women’s Clinic does not facilitate adoptions, we do have information to help you decide if adoption is for you, as well as referrals to qualified adoption facilitators if you choose to further explore adoption.